Over a third of us are now single. With the single camp growing at ten times the rate of the actual population, it is now the norm to be single well into our thirties – the average marriage age for women is 35 and 37 for men. But nobody seems to have told society, romcom makers, songwriters, marriage-hungry mothers, ‘tick-tock’ uncles, our mates or us that. Cue: single anxiety. Spending hours scrolling through dating apps. Being inconsolable when he/she doesn’t text. Catherine Gray went through all of this. She took a year off dating to get her love-hooked head straight. How do we chill our boots about our single status and de-programme from urgent, red, heart-shaped societal pressure to find your ‘other half’? We know intellectually that single is far preferable to panic-settling, yet we forget that almost constantly. Let’s start the reverse-brainwash and locate our happily-single sanity.